Saturday, December 11, 2010

Thank You All so much.






I'm doing alright but missing my best friend a lot. Just the simple act of chatting in the evening. Things you don't think about much while you have them. Relatives have returned home to the pacific northwest after much delay and cancellation of planes due to weather. I am now in the middle of financial paperwork hell although I must say I've had a lot of help from the Lab where Roger worked. They are guiding me through the maze and being a big help. I am grateful.
The last day we had with Roger we all talked about the many things we loved about him and how much we wish he could have talked to us in those last hours. He had a hard time at the end and remained whatt we always called stubborn Irish. Even the Doctors and Nurses remarked on what a tough guy he was. People from various parts of the hospital came and hugged me and told me how honored they were to have known Roger over these months. Nurses who had been with him for months cried at the end. A little later when it was all quiet, James said to me, "I sure wish I could go get Dad a margarita." Roger couldn't drink in the last two years due to meds. He was never a big drinker but he sure missed those margaritas. A couple of hundred people came to the wake. Many of the engineers that Roger had worked with over the years and many friends and family. After the funeral we all went to a local pub and ordered margaritas and toasted Roger. It was a real old fashioned Irish/Italian wake with a Latin twist. He would have loved it.
I want to thank you all for your lovely messages. I was comforted so much by all of them. One of these days I will return to sewing and blogging. I just need some time to get things sorted out and get past all that has happened.
I will love him always. He gave me the gift of a wonderful life. I just need to figure out how to go on without him.

14 comments:

Gerrie said...

Hugs - OOXX

Janet said...

Just what Gerrie said....Hugs to you!!

Barbara C said...

Take good care of yourself. This is a tough transition. Hugs.

Terry said...

Hugs to you. I know he is with you in your heart.

Darcie said...

Oh, Dee. Such a beautiful tribute to Roger. Thank you so much for sharing. That's what friends are for...triumphs as well as trials. Thinking of you....

Debra said...

We've got your back, Dee.

xoxox

You come here and tell us whatever, whenever. We'll listen.

Joanne S said...

Tonight I making a Margarita and toasting Roger. I was deeply moved by the hospital staff coming to visit Roger. I know, from experience with hospice, that the emotions of the people in the room enveloped Roger. Hearing is the last thing to go--so he heard all the things people said to him and about him. Such love, respect and warmth. Roger was a very special man.

Continue to talk to Roger in the evening. I spoke to my dad the entire time I was cleaning out his house. A long conversation, many tears and quite a few smiles.

Libby said...

Great pictures to accompany your tribute.
Take good care of yourself and know you have lots of folk out here keeping you in their thoughts.

Michele Bilyeu said...

Beautiful, Dee. You do him proud. The next time I'm offered a margarita, I'm accepting it and toasting your best friend, the love you shared, and the memories that will always live on in the heartstrings that continue to connect..one heart to the other.

Anonymous said...

So very sorry for your loss....

I am still talking to my deceased relatives ...all the time.
God Bless you during these rough days....

Del said...

It helps to have people with whom you can remember someone you love - reach out. Roger was part of many lives and their memories can help you cope. I find it is VERY helpful to visit with Floyd now and then, even after twenty years. Good luck with the financials. Love, Del

Melody Johnson said...

Thanks Dee for giving us the pictures of dear Rog. All our Ove to you and stay warm.
Mel

Judy from Northport said...

All along, your blog has been a tribute to Roger and your beautiful relationship.
Of course you will continue to visit and speak with him daily.
My mom has been gone for 4 years, yet she was here yesterday.
Please don't forget what Debra said, we've got your back.

Katie said...

I love the way your family honored Roger. Be gentle with yourself as you walk this path. There are no things that should, need or must be done. And no time line either. Whatever is right for you, is right. I found writing helpful. Remember that it is a path and, although it will go on forever, it is different around each curve. Embrace the journey.
Lots of hugs.